Elyse Myers Talks Psychological Well being and Her New Podcast

Picture Supply: Lauren Wade

Generally, Elyse Myers simply must take a break from her face. Not in a nasty approach, however once you spend hours filming and enhancing movies of your self, just like the comic does for her TikTok account of 5.6 million followers, looking at your face for that lengthy can begin to really feel “actually unnatural,” Myers tells hollywoodnewsflash.us. “For a human being to have that a lot details about what they appear like from each angle . . . your mind’s not meant for it!”

At this level, Myers’s face is pretty recognizable to anybody who spends time on TikTok. You might need seen her video recounting her worst date of all time (she purchased the man 100 tacos, which they ate in silence at his kitchen desk) or the one the place she met her childhood crush, Lance Bass. The tales she shares are quirky, awkward, hilarious, and designed to make you snicker out loud whereas concurrently cringing from secondhand embarrassment. Nevertheless it’s Myers’s supply that basically sells it: earnest, deadpan, extensive eyes locked on the digital camera. Many movies are totally face-to-camera with minimal cuts, and the mix of filming and enhancing equates to hours of dissecting her personal look.

For her personal psychological well being, the 29-year-old comic has began instituting “face breaks” — i.e., making movies that do not function her picture — when it will get to be an excessive amount of. That is additionally why Myers would not enterprise into the wilderness of her remark part too typically. Typically, she says, the optimistic feedback are inclined to float to the highest, in order that’s the place she stays. “That is the group that loves you, that helps you, that desires to construct you up,” she explains. “So long as you do not go searching for ache down within the depths of your feedback, you will be OK.”

Discovering TikTok in a “Low Season”

In her surprising new life as a social media star, Myers has gotten fairly good at creating boundaries for the sake of her psychological well being. She initially bought into TikTok after the start of her son when, as Myers describes it, she was going via a “off-season” along with her psychological well being.

“I used to be type of discovering a approach to get again to myself, mentally,” she says. Unable to get again into her “inventive rhythm” via her normal retailers like inventive writing and songwriting, Myers began making movies within the morning earlier than beginning her day job as an internet developer. Virtually instantly, she discovered an viewers who resonated along with her humorous, genuine storytelling. Her aim: to make movies for folks like her, caught in a troublesome psychological scenario and needing a vibrant spot of their day. “It wasn’t heavy; it was only a foolish story that allowed them to . . . have amusing and transfer on,” she says. “Opening my life up in that approach healed me out of that season but additionally . . . introduced one million different folks together with me in a approach that I by no means might’ve actually imagined once I began making the movies.”

“Do It Scared”

Now that she’s a full-time comic on TikTok, psychological well being has continued to be a focus for Myers’s content material. In addition to entertaining folks, a continuing theme in Myers’s movies is psychological well being, a lot of it stemming from her personal journey with nervousness and despair.

As a baby, Myers says, she struggled to manage her feelings and really feel “baseline regular” in comparison with the youngsters round her. “I might get actually anxious, after which I might have days once I simply did not wish to go to high school,” she says. It felt like she was drained, Myers remembers, however it clearly wasn’t simply fatigue.

Myers’s household linked her with psychological well being professionals, and at a younger age, she realized she was combating nervousness and despair. As she bought older, she began to be taught which conditions set off it: being round massive teams of individuals, which made her really feel like she could not communicate up or categorical herself; and dealing herself into burnout by not prioritizing relaxation.

In January, Myers grew to become a full-time content material creator, which comes with its personal psychological well being challenges. Public talking can set off her nervousness, and but she now creates movies for an enormous viewers, which frequently quantity within the thousands and thousands. How does she make it work? “It is simpler to inform a narrative and submit it and have or not it’s seen by folks as a result of I am not in entrance of them,” Myers explains. “Actually, it is just like the best-case situation for any individual who struggles with nerves in entrance of individuals. Creating content material on-line is the best approach to do it. You’ll be able to ship that info out into the world with out ever having to actually work together with folks’s faces and eyeballs.”

She’s additionally realized that she would not must really feel one hundred pc assured and fearless to do scary issues, like leaping headfirst into a brand new profession. “I simply type of found out I might do it scared,” she says. “I adopted that precept actually early on in life the place, like, you are gonna be nervous when you’re doing it, however you are simply gonna do it scared, and seems, it nonetheless works.”

Studying to Love Her Physique

Getting into a occupation that is so picture centered additionally presents one other type of problem. Myers has been open about her journey with physique picture on her channels, and it is one thing she says she was acutely aware of at an early age. “I used to be simply very conscious of how I seemed and what that meant for me,” she says. “I used to be conscious of the dimensions of my physique earlier than I ever realized how you can adore it.”

She finally sought therapy and says the journey towards physique acceptance actually progressed when she grew to become an grownup. “I’ve by no means been in a greater place than I’m proper now,” Myers says.

That is to not say that sustaining her optimistic mindset round physique picture is straightforward, Myers says. It helps, although, that her total group is extraordinarily type. “It is simply surprising,” she says. “Persons are simply so type.”

As for the uncalled-for feedback about her look and physique, Myers says, “I’ve to let myself have some house from folks’s opinions. I imply, I might verify each concern I’ve by simply studying via my feedback, if I actually wished to. However I simply do not have the time for that. I will not be efficient as a content material creator or as an individual if I simply fill my mind with that a lot info.”

What’s Subsequent?

Face breaks, avoiding destructive feedback, “doing it scared,” logging off at 4:30 p.m. day-after-day to do bathtub time along with her son — speaking with Myers is like getting a toolkit for sustaining psychological well being once you’re perpetually on-line. These boundaries, instruments, and coping mechanisms are all designed to assist her keep away from burnout and keep her ardour for what she does, as a result of she says she loves her job. “I wish to do that without end,” she says.

Possibly not essentially making TikTok movies without end — though Myers actually discovered her present for storytelling on that platform — however operating a enterprise, writing, and being a inventive skilled. Myers says she’s engaged on a TV present and a e book, and her new podcast with Lemonada Media and Powderkeg Media, “Funny Cuz It’s True,” launched in the present day. In it, Myers sits down with comedians, popular culture icons, and “simply folks I believe are actually humorous” to have conversations about awkward issues they’ve carried out that, for one purpose or one other, they can not cease reliving. It is a pure match, since that is a supply of inspiration Myers has tapped for her personal movies. “It simply makes these individuals who I am speaking to, who in any other case would really feel very unapproachable, very approachable and really regular,” she says. “I believe that is actually lovely, and I believe that we have to have extra of that from folks within the highlight.”

Myers hopes to make psychological well being simply as approachable by seamlessly working it into each dialog and video. In that approach, she hopes to make psychological well being a traditional factor to speak about each day. “I believe the extra that we will simply weave it into our regular life, the simpler it will likely be . . . to open up about it,” she says. “I simply wish to discuss it in a approach that feels so not-a-big-deal that it is like respiratory.”

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